We all know the obvious signs of infidelity, like sudden changes in appearance and a new found interest in secrecy, but some indicators of cheating can often be less conspicuous. Some signs of cheating are elusive and may elude detection because, at times, the partner harbouring suspicions may second-guess themselves or believe that there’s no conceivable reason their partner would cheat. If you’re in search of subtle cues that your partner might be cheating—clues that you might be dismissing because they’re too discreet—then read on. The Toronto Private Investigators at Haywood Hunt & Associates Inc. catch cheaters in the act daily and they’ve compiled a list of 10 of the more subtle signs your partner may be being less than faithful.
A Decline OR Increase in Intimate Activities
If your physical intimacy has either dwindled or intensified to the extent that you’ve taken notice, it could indicate an extramarital affair. Your partner might either lack the energy for intimacy with you because their needs are being met elsewhere, or they might also be overcompensating in the bedroom to conceal the affair.
Unusual Kindness from Friends and Family
Infidelity seldom remains a secret indefinitely. Typically, the first to catch on are family members or friends of the cheating partner. Consequently, these individuals may try to make amends for their role in the affair by being exceedingly nice to the other partner. They may also become overly involved in the couple’s life to help the cheater conceal their infidelity.
Modifications in Public Displays of Affection
Much like changes in bedroom activities, a cheating partner may distance themselves from you in public, as their romantic interest is preoccupied elsewhere. Alternatively, they might display excessive sweetness as a compensatory measure.
Diminished Emotional Intimacy
If your partner has seemed more quiet than usual and is no longer sharing the everyday life details you once enjoyed, it could signify turbulence in the relationship.
Changes in schedules can naturally occur due to shifts in work or life stages. However, if your partner is concealing these changes or providing explanations that don’t add up, it might warrant further investigation.
Shifts in Worldview
A change in attitude or outlook on life may suggest that your partner is spending time with someone who exerts a newfound influence. If this change is coupled with a reluctance to discuss it, it could be related to an affair.
Behavior and Habit Adjustments
If your partner has been avoiding you, dodging certain topics, acting strangely (like texting late at night), or suddenly altering their appearance, it might be an indication of an affair.
Escalated Arguments and Blame
When cheaters feel psychologically cornered, they may lash out, picking fights for no reason, blowing up minor arguments, or accusing you of infidelity to divert attention away from their own wrongdoing. This behavior, akin to gaslighting, warrants prompt attention, even if the accused party is not cheating.
Altered Social Media Usage
If your partner has been increasingly interacting with a particular individual, concealing these interactions, or altering their social media activity (posting more or less), it could raise suspicions, especially when combined with changes in privacy settings.
Unexplained expenses in bank records or credit cards, discrepancies in investment or retirement accounts, or substantial withdrawals could indicate that funds are being diverted to finance an affair. Regardless of the affair’s cost, financial dishonesty should not be overlooked. Seek answers and clarity for your peace of mind.
If any of the previous signs are setting off alarm bells, you need to be honest with yourself and get the answers you deserve. Speak with family and friends about your suspicions and don’t let your partner gaslight you into thinking you are being paranoid. Our private investigators help individuals daily and the one take away we get from every case, is that the individual who is being cheated on deserves better and the sooner one can confront these facts, the faster they can get control of their life once again.